Friday, September 22, 2006

it's my party...

A word of advice to all of you:

Don't say you're going to do things...and then not do them.

Let's suppose, just for an example, that someone decided to have a birthday gathering. And they asked people to let them know if they would be coming. It would probably be a good idea, if you think there's a chance that you might flake out, that you shouldn't tell them that you're "definitely coming".

Why?

Well, perhaps the person wasn't planning on having a big party.

Perhaps the person announced the party on late notice, and, when several people said that they were unavailable, was thinking of postponing the get-together; but when a few of his friends said that they'd love to come, he decided to go ahead.

Perhaps the person sat by himself in the bar for an hour.

Perhaps only two people showed up at the bar during the three hours he was there.

And perhaps, perhaps, the boy who was throwing this party, normally a pretty stoic guy, was feeling pretty lonely that day, and just wanted to hang out with some close friends. And their absence only made those feelings worse. We might even go as far as to say that the boy's feelings were hurt.

Perhaps.

3 comments:

Your Mom said...

I would have been there. You know, if I weren't 8 months pregnant and living in Missouri.

Happy birthday, by the way.

Lady Wyntir said...

Happy Birthday ^_^

i've noticed that lonliness is a frequent visitor lately.

Hang in there.

~wyn

Melissa said...

I'm an asshole. I'm an asshole with horrible gastro-intestinal issues that tend to confine me to the bathroom (as was the case Wed night), but still, I should have called you to let you know. I'm sorry. Very sorry. I'm going to tell you this in person very soon.