A short post, but I had to comment...
Things with Snapple are going pretty well. She's really kind, and considerate, and I have no problems hanging out with her for hours. Etc., etc.
However...
I've been a "single" guy for so long that it's kind of hard to get out of this mindset. And I'm in a city with a LOT of beautiful women, and I work with several beautiful women, and I'm playing high-profile roles, and I get a little attention...and I like it.
So, the question is not, "Is Snapple the right girl for me?" but rather, "Do I want to be in a committed monogamous relationship?"
Last night, unfortunately, I did one of the dumber things I've ever done - I told Snapple about my doubts. Now she's convinced that she's done something wrong, and that I don't really like her. It was a circular conversation, and not a whole lot of fun.
So...what now?
Off to rehearsal...more later.
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You didn't do anything wrong...especially if she's thinking that you're in the relationship without reservation.
However, this is the result of being honest. You can't really expect anything else. She's being rightfully nervous, especially if she digs you. Your quandary is out of her hands and that's scary.
Now...if things can't go back to being cool and in the moment, then you have to decide if this is what you want. Because it sounds like you're both getting attached.
For the record, you have never talked about a girl on this blog this long without detailing some flaw of hers or some drama she's dragged you into. I'm just sayin'...
I 100% agree with L. Britt.
I disagree with your choice of the name Snapple. This girl deserves a better name than that!
Snapple is entirely appropriate as a name for her...because that's all she drinks...
YOU DID NOT. I AM SO DISAPPOINTED IN YOU. YOU ARE SUCH A MALE.
hmph!!!
OK man...you know I've got your back (as much as is possible for an online bud)...but I have to say this wasn't your brightest moment.
I get the doubts...but I'm thinking maybe you should've waited until you decided about not wanting to be in a committed relationship before telling her you were doubting it.
But then again...this is Mr. Relationship Pot calling you, Mr. Relationship Kettle...wait...now that'll sound all racist or something. SHEESH!!!! You know what I mean, right?!
Good luck with her.
And, the more I think about it...honesty IS a good thing...at least it should be. (Again...not that I'm one to talk.)
On some level I agree with dh. Why stress her out for no reason? However, if you are a guy (which you are), you were telling her your doubts even without saying it. Girls pick up on this stuff and guys are always astonished. You guys aren't that subtle, unless you are REALLY trying to be.
So ultimately, I applaud you for expressing yourself in a healthy way instead of doing that weird distancing thing.
But as I said before, you can't expect to drop something like this on her and have her not respond. That's just an unfair expectation. So if your objective was to keep her from reacting negatively, then it wasn't a good idea.
dude.
oh dude.
What else do you do besides work and girls?
Sports, Bright-Eyes. Can't believe you left that one out.
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